Hello, my darling!
I apologize for the irregular posts. I really should get myself on a schedule, but, ah, that would require effort and planning ahead – two things I’m not particularly fond of. So we’ll just stick with this spontaneous thing I’ve got going on.
Today, I just want to kind of throw some thoughts out there. It might be a bit scattered, so hold on tight. 😉
And now what are we?
What happened to the kids who weren’t afraid to love, to try things, to make mistakes? What happened to the kids who thought they were going to change the world?
I guess they grew up.
I used to day dream all the time. I used to think about my future.
Now, not so much. It’s getting better, but I used to dread thinking about the next day because it was so overwhelming. It still is if I think too hard or far. It just seems like once you hit high school, things go by so fast.
You’re expected to do, like,
- 529,720,762,759 hours of community service
- 5,000 hours of internship
- decide what college to attend
- what you want to do with the rest of your life
- make friends
- keep friends
- lose friends
- get broken
- pick yourself back up
- have fun because childhood is the best time of your life but why aren’t you acting like an adult
- cry but not too much because people will ask what’s wrong and they have their own problems – bigger problems so yours mean nothing
- dream big
- no, not that big you idiot because only special people can do that (basically, you’re obviously not special)
- be yourself
- no, not like that
- do your homework
- stop talking so much, no one cares
- why are you so quiet, I want to hear what you have to say
- get involved in extra curricular activities
- but maybe you should drop them because you obviously need an A+ in all of your classes and you seem stressed out
- and don’t forget to shower and sleep somewhere in between.
Why don’t we dream big anymore? Because there are only 24 hours in a day and it’s spent doing s o m u c h n o t h i n g.
Why do we really need A’s? I work way too hard for a letter. After that, what? I go to a nice college so I can hopefully get a job in the field I studied for. So much of what I do rests on hope that’s not even my own. Is that okay? Is this really how I want to live my life? I just don’t understand why that’s the only option. *shakes head*
(This is not to say that I’m advocating for rebellion against parents/guardians when they tell you to work hard and get good grades. I only mean that you should think for yourself. Respect authority, kids.)
Back to the point: we don’t dream anymore. Our hopes been sucked dry by an uncreative society’s chaotic and bland version of reality. And we so readily conform to it. Our new dreams are no longer that of a hopeful child with starry eyes looking to a bright future. The only dreams we now dare to hope come true must be possible and probable. Anything else will get you hurt.
Our new dreams, though, terrify us into paralysis. We’re afraid to dream too big. We’re afraid we can’t achieve the success they have. We’re afraid. So afraid.
Why don’t we dream big anymore? Because there are only 24 hours in a day and-
Guys, there are only 24 hours in a day.
Don’t waste that precious time being afraid. If you’re afraid to wear that leather jacket because you’re afraid to break out of the t-shirt and jeans standard you’ve created for yourself, have courage. Do it. Go for it. What’s the worst that could happen? Flushed cheeks and maybe a comment on how wonderful you look?
Small changes add up. Make them.
They don’t have to be life changes. Maybe just a little one. Live on the edge. Chop your hair off, wear striped pants, smile at a stranger.
Summary: society’s version of dreaming is going to keep your from making a move. So screw society and do your own thing. Dream. Hope. Love.
[/thus end Rana’s random thoughts]
Much love from a kid who’s just as confused (if not more so) as you.