• she’s ugly •

|| “She’s ugly.” ||

|| “Is she pretty or is she just wearing a lot of makeup?” ||

|| “Geez, she’s fat.” ||

I hear these negative remarks frequently. I’ve heard them all my life. I noticed my little sister repeating these harsh statements + that ticked me off because, cynic and critic though I am, I like to consider myself a just + fair one (just ask me, right?).

Maybe cynic and critic aren’t the right terms here. Realistic sounds more accurate in this context, no?

I have a few thoughts and if I don’t put them in a list, I’ll ramble. Typical, right?

  • Criticizing someone for the way they look is so shallow. Have we really nothing better to do than point out the flaws in others? Why do we do it, anyway? Does it make us feel better about ourselves, somehow? How low are we that we need to put others down to feel good about ourselves?
  • Being the most beautiful person in a room isn’t a competition. We shouldn’t feel inferior because a prettier person exists.
  • Beautiful is such a fluid and relative term anyway. By whose standards are we judging others and why do we do it?
  • These statements teach us, and others, to be judgmental and cruel. It’s not just a statement. It’s a worldview. If we look at someone and judge them by their appearance, we miss out. And, believe me, we’re missing more than they are.
  • We’re giving in to the lies of pop culture + that’s what the government wants + we can’t let them win. Now I insert something about aliens and government conspiracy theories here, right?
  • No one is ugly from the outside. It’s a misconception sold to us by the media and we buy it subconsciously. You can’t look at someone and say, “they’re ugly.” You don’t know that.
  • Ugly is a choice. We choose ugly whenever we judge someone by their appearance and that makes us uglier in that moment than they will ever be. Don’t choose ugly. You’re better than that.

Okay, I think I’m done.

I wanted to speak on this only because it’s a mentality that I feel should be recognized; we often judge subconsciously. I do too. I’m not perfect. All too often do I look at someone and go, “I don’t want to be friends with them. Look at their eyebrows. Ugh.” And that’s wrong of me.

Style is a preference. We can judge that. Faces + body types are individual and unique. We should love that.

Over + out.

Rana || xoxo

• MEMEBOX review •

• MEMEBOX •

//packaged with bright pink shredded paper + three free sample items//

//packaged with bright pink shredded paper + three free sample items//

[pronounced me-me-box]

…is a frabjous online store for Korean beauty products. One of the most adorable places on the internet with an entire series dedicated to products that tell you what they are. You’ll see what I mean.

It’s essentially a hug in a box that will bring you incredible amounts of happiness when you open it.

• eyeliner •

I purchased a brown eyeliner from the I’m Series.

It glides on very smoothly and contains a lasting power not of this world. Or country. Whichever. I wore it from work to my church’s annual fall festival and it didn’t budge from 7:30 a.m. – 9:00 p.m.!

• MEMEBOX review •

One end is the eyeliner and the other is a little angled brush to help you wing it out but I find that that doesn’t really work. But, honestly, if you’re looking for a no-smudge, all-day eyeliner, this is it. And it works for what I need, so I’m really pleased! Also there is a built in sharpener + that’s simply the bomb diggity.

 

• face masks •

• MEMEBOX review •

I bought…

this adorable sheep mask

this soothing dragon mask

this precious panda mask

this moisturizing otter mask.

My mom, sister, and I found these incredibly refreshing and soothing. The next day, I noticed that my skin looked dewy and very healthy after using the sheep mask. It was a subtle change, but appreciated and perfect for an inexpensive pamper!

• get 10% off your first order •

Click HERE and pamper yourself! The most expensive part is the shipping, but if you spend a certain amount, you’ll get that free and I promise you’ll enjoy what you purchase. MEMEBOX is perfect for Christmas, birthday, and just-because gifts!

For best results, enjoy with your mom, little sister, homemade apple pie, whipped cream, + the first viewing of ELF for the season.

IMG_20151113_191712580 • MEMEBOX review •

Love always,

Rana || xoxo

• love thyself •

 

“You’re so thin! Oh, my gosh. If I could look like you…”

“No, I’m not! Look at you! You’re gorgeous! I’d switch bodies with you in a heartbeat!”

• love thyself • || • The Gingerling •

It’s not right. It’s destructive to, not only ourselves, but also to the people around us. We teach ourselves and others that we must always consider another’s beauty to be the absence of our own. We teach each other that, to make someone else feel better about themselves, we must point out our own flaws.

That’s not true.

And it’s not helpful.

In loving yourself, you help others love themselves.

I realized this when I was speaking with a darling friend of mine. I had mentioned that I didn’t like my lips because my lower lip stuck out farther than my upper one. She told me her lips were the same, but she loved hers. And then it dawned upon me that… it’s okay to like the way you look. It’s not narcissistic. It’s not selfish. It’s self-love.

It’s okay to love something unique about yourself. It’s okay to love the way you look even if (especially if) you don’t look like everyone else.

In my friend loving herself – loving the things about her that I am insecure about in myself – I was able to love myself. I am able to love myself. To love the way I look.

• I love my lips. I love how full they are. I love the color.

• I love my hands and feet. My fingers are short, but they serve their purpose. My toes are sausage-like, but they do their thing well. I love my hands and feet because they are just so dang pretty!

• I love my eyes. I love the dual tone. The mutation. I love that my right eye has a brown spot in the blue. I love the asymmetrical beauty.

• I love my legs. There’s not much of them as I stand at 5′-nothing. But they’re supportive (I like puns and I suspect everyone does but for whatever reason, we have to pretend like we hate them…?).

• I love my body shape. It’s difficult to work with sometimes (you know those things everyone wears and it looks great, but you try it on and how did I end up looking like I just crawled out of the sewer system? I promise I’m human.), but I love it. I love that I have some meat on me.

• I love my hair. I love that the bottom half decided to turn blond for whatever reason (probably to give me a reason for the less-than-stellar remarks that slip out of my mouth). I love that I’m a ginger. I hope that I never go all blond or brown because I just can’t see myself as anything but a redhead.

• I love my eyebrows. They’re on-point frequently + always without makeup.

I don’t love myself all the time. That’s not to be expected. I don’t think anyone loves themselves all the time. That’s a part of being human. We’re not perfect. And we shouldn’t expect ourselves to be.

I think we confuse being cocky with being confident.

Don’t be cocky. Don’t overestimate yourself. Don’t walk around thinking you’re the best.

Be confident. Trust in the risks you’re taking. Know that you can always learn something and be better than who you were yesterday.

Love yourself genuinely because, in loving who you are and what you look like, you can help others to love themselves.

Peace out.

Rana || xoxo

 

Autumn

Autumn is a second spring when every leaf is a flower.

Albert Camus

I don’t know who that guy is, but I agree with him.

Autumn is a beautiful season where the weather is not too hot, not too cold, and allows you to pull out those comfy, fuzzy sweaters you’ve been missing all year as well as that pair of cute boots you’ve stored away since it became too hot to wear them comfortably.

Because Autumn is a gorgeous time of year, Mom’s decided it’s time to decorate the house!

I took pictures. Because taking pictures are fun.

Without further ado, here they are, my lovely readers!

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This is the mess we started out with.

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And then we did the coffee table. Did I mention we had a pet bunny? Yeah, it’s sort of like a pet rock…

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This is part of the living room.

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Can you tell my mom is a candle person?

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I’m not really sure what this is… but it’s pretty, isn’t it?

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Not only are we candle people, but we’re also HEALTHY candle people! Notice the bottle of vitamins on the unused marble cutting board we got as a Christmas gift one year. Oh yeah! We’re also tea people. Well, I am anyway. 😛 My favs are vanilla, vanilla chai, and pumpkin spice! We also have some herb tea stuff but it’s nothing you can buy at the store. 😉

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A gorgeous shot of of a window! 😛

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The table is all ready for fall!

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Ah, don’t do you just love fake plants? No watering, no tilling of the soil… they just… look nice.

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This is something my dad made (he’s very talented, as you can see). Yes, we were listening to Proof of Your Love by For KING and COUNTRY. Yes, we have Roku. And yes, we love books. And candles.

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The grandfather clock. (Wow, I thought “the Godfather clock” and was like, “Wait! That can’t be right.” You just read that in an Yzma voice, didn’t you?)

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Next, I headed outside to get some nature shots. ^_^

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Roses are beautiful. Even dying ones. There’s just something about them… They age with dignity, I guess.

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And it’s not like they’re jealous of the young roses either…

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I love the lighting in this picture… and the raindrops on the petals…

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Daisies are beautiful too!

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We’ve got quite a few oak trees around our place!

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This is a side shot of the house. Our lanai has glass windows all around. Isn’t that just dreamy?!

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Le driveway.

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Ma petite chat. (Sorry! Don’t know what’s up with the French!)

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Poinsettias are pretty flowers!

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I don’t know what these are, but they were purple and pretty, so I shot them (with a camera, of course!).

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Oh, look! Another purple thing! Except I know what this is! It’s a flower! Not sure what kind though. 😛

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And here’s a yellow one!

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This is a bird thing that I didn’t know was here until I started taking pictures of the flowers!

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The barn is on the left there behind the house. But this is mainly a shot of overgrown foliage that’s blocking the walkway around the oak tree in front of our kitchen window. 😛

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Gorgeous shot of a barbed wire fence, don’t you think? 😉

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Another shot of the driveway. I know, I know. We have a gorgeous driveway. *cries tears brought by the overwhelming sense of beauty*

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Some bushes.

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The other side of the driveway. It’s like a U-turn one.

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Alrighty! I hope you all enjoyed that because it took me forever to upload the pictures and stuff. 😛

God bless!

Rana