• shh •


Howdy!

Forgive my radio silence! School has been kicking my butt and I haven’t really known what to post about which is what I wanted to talk about today.

• an open letter to my friends •

This has been a long time in coming partially because I did not know if I was ready to be this open. I’m also concerned that this will come off as me being a drama queen or something. I deny a lot of things because other people have it worse, but I think it’s important to realize that, just because someone has it worse, doesn’t mean that what hurts me means any less.

But let’s get to it.

I’m a very private person. I will tell you what’s up, but not what’s in my head. I will be very open with you, but not tell you a thing. And I don’t know if you notice that, but it hurts me and I’m sorry for not letting you in.

The thing is, I don’t know how.

I don’t know what to talk about. I don’t know how to have an easy conversation. I don’t know how to talk without thinking, “will I regret saying this?” so I don’t say much. I don’t know how to talk about the things I love without the fear of boring you. I can’t talk about what I love without choking up because only I understand it and even the wrong look from someone when I speak will silence me.

My family is constantly on me to stop mumbling + speak up. I wonder if this is because the words I don’t say ought to be louder and the things I do say mean nothing to me. I’ve grown quiet about the things I love. I’ve forgotten how to be open. I’ve forgotten how to accept other people. I’ve forgotten to put the things that matter to me first; instead, I listen to the people that say “school is the most important thing in your life right now”, “focus on school”, “the grades you get now are what will help you most in college”, “get that scholarship”, “study something that makes you money”, “you should be studying instead of writing”.

I’ve noticed that I don’t look people in the eye so much anymore either. Why? Maybe it’s because they will notice all the thoughts I don’t say. Who knows?

And, to my friends, I’m sorry. I don’t mean to make you feel like you’re not… accepted around me. I don’t mean to make you feel like the things that matter to you don’t matter to me. Okay, so they might not matter to me, but you matter to me. And that’s what matters most.

I’m sorry for holding you at arm’s length. And to those I want to be friends with, but won’t speak to, I’m sorry for not having the courage to reach out.

I genuinely love you all and, while I might limit what I say + do, I do not limit my love for you.

Eternal love,

Rana || xoxo

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4 thoughts on “• shh •

  1. Dearie,

    I understand, Dearie. Completely, totally, personally understand your position. I want you to know that. I don’t want you to think that I’ve felt excluded by you, or pushed aside, or less important because of how you try to deal with your problems,

    But please don’t let it hurt you more than it needs to. Like I already said, I understand. In no way do I want to make you feel uncomfortable. I just want you to know that I’m here. I’m willing to listen, even if I can’t fix your problem.

    And please don’t let anyone else dictate what you choose to say. If you hold back too much, it makes life worse for everyone, but it impacts you the most. I don’t want you doing/not doing things because of what others might be thinking. Please don’t, Dearie, because I know exactly what it’s like to feel and act that way.

    One final thought: there is no need to apologize. Like I already said, I’ve never felt unaccepted by you. In fact, you’ve helped me learn to better hold my tongue, which is an aspect that a lot of other people probably enjoy greatly. 😉
    But if it would make you feel any better about the situation, then I forgive you.

    Stay happy, Dearie. I love you, and I’m praying for you.
    Waffle-Shake Girl

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    • Thank you so much for this. ❤ I really appreciate it; I know what I need to do to be more open but it’s just hard to put it into practice and know /how/. Know what I mean?

      I’m so glad you don’t feel unaccepted or pushed out because you, actually, are the one I was concerned mostly about. ❤ I noticed you do curb a lot of what you say more frequently and I hope that it’s you finding a balance and not being afraid of annoying me or anything like that.

      I’m always praying for you too, k? ❤

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    • Hey, Skye!

      Here’s the problem: you try to find a balance by doing less of a thing and then end up doing it too much. But here’s the key: find the balance before you tip the scale the other way. Don’t hide your thoughts too much, don’t keep quiet about what you love, and stay true to yourself. Cliche, I know, but take care, okay? I know you probably already know all that, but still. ❤

      Love always,
      Rana || xoxo

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